Our marriage is doomed
Well, I’ve always heard that having a baby with someone brings you together. I beg to differ. Our marriage is on the rocks and I blame this kid.
First off, she’s adorable. We don’t want to share her with each other at all. It’s getting ugly here in Changsha. Let me give you some examples from our day.
We wake up and Ladybug is all cuddly and smiley and wants to squirm around on us. So we fight over which one of us needs to get showered first and thus leave the warm aura of baby time. We go downstairs to breakfast and fight about who gets to feed her and finally compromise by splitting out the time. We try to snap on her carrier extra fast so the other one can’t get to it and clamp her on. Ladybug watches all of this with a bemused look on her face. She knows we’re crazy about her already. We saw so many smiles today and lots of giggles. She does that Indian Chief thing with her hand over her mouth and I can pat my hand over her mouth and she’ll make the sound. She knows how to clap and gets all proud of herself and throws her hands up to show just how amazing she thinks she is. All of this is either for our entertainment or (and this is my theory) an attempt to be even more adorable so she can watch her parents’ continuous competition for her affections. Thus far we’re in a tie but I’m hoping to pull ahead tomorrow. Wish me luck.
Comments
By Chrissy the Hyphenated on October 29th, 2009 at 10:48 pm
What fool ever said having a baby brings you together? I mean … duh … most of us got together long enough to get the little bun in the oven but seriously … after s/he is born? Ha!
Everything I’ve ever read, heard or experienced tells me that kids are a major stressor on a relationship. My first born had colic a LOT, so heavy on the screaming and projectile vomiting. I don’t remember much competition to hold her. Mostly I remember trying to keep her from waking her dad in the night, since he had to go to work while I could nap when (if) she did. The other biggie was worrying and fighting about money since the little monstairs seemed to cost more money than we had at every turn.
But … we just celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary and are eagerly awaiting the arrival of our first grand-baby to the land of the breathing. It wasn’t easy raising our three daughters without committing murder or divorce, but hey … what worthwhile thing is ever easy? And we had run out of stuff to talk about by the time we got pregnant, so God knows how much marriage we would’ve had if we hadn’t LOL.
At this point, I can honestly say without hesitation or prevarication that of all the things I’ve done in my life, I count these as my most worthwhile achievements: I stuck it out with the man I married and together we raised up three of the best Adult American Ladies ever!
By Mommy Pundit on October 31st, 2009 at 1:41 am
Thanks for the comments, Chrissy! You made me laugh! Now that we have two little ones I hear you about the money and the exhaustion! Our first one, our little Ladybug, we’d anticipated for 5 years. So to say we were excited was a bit of an understatement. Our latest little bundle of joy is currently screaming her head off so I need to close but I appreciate you reading my column! And thanks for sharing your experience! Gives me hope we can survive this madness!!